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This week’s Saturday Centus reminded me of a story my mom told me just a few years ago. It was a story of when she was a young, nervous Indian bride living with her husband in Dubai, away from her family. Read on…it’s a true story.


She carefully broke the egg into the pan. Oh no! The yolk had broken again. She slapped her forehead. Her husband of one month was particular about his eggs. “If the yolk’s broken, the egg aint any good,” he says. She quickly dumped it in the bin and had the next one in the pan. Chssszzzzz- it fried quite nicely. She proudly looked at the sunny side up. “Is it ready honey,” he peeped into the kitchen. “Just bringing it,” she smiled sweetly. And as she took it out of the pan- plop- the yellow liquid oozed out

Bomb Blasts et al.

Bomb blasts in Mumbai: 17 dead 131 injured, 23 serious.

I was at a parlor when the story broke. And my beautician was a Mumbaikar. She went pale when I told her what had happened. She immediately tried to call her husband, daughters and siblings living in Mumbai. But obviously phone lines were jammed. When I left the parlor about an hour later, she still hadn't been able to talk to her family.

The next day it was crazy in our office. We were trying to get witness accounts, get our facts right, update our information as new facts and figures came out. Total mayhem. The TV was blaring away in the newsroom. One reporter was standing in front of the hospital and interviewing victims' relatives. As I watched them, I realized that whenever an accident takes place or a disaster happens, we always identify it in numbers- 17 killed and 131 injured. No one really talks about 50 people who may have lost their livelihood because of the 17 people killed. No one really talks about those who are among the 131 injured, who will never be able to be the same again. These individual stories are what makes a tragedy so tragic.

One of the interviewed relatives had lost his brother who runs a shop in Zaveri Bazaar. He had just stepped out for a walk. What will happen to the shop? What will happen to the people who work in the shop? How long will it take for the shop to recover from its damages? No one knows.

Another person had lost his son who had been married only for two months. What will happen to his wife? Will she ever remarry or will she stay a widow in honor of the husband whom she hadn’t even known properly? What if she is pregnant by now? The child will never experience the warmth of a father’s love

I remember an Indian movie which told the story of a guy who earned a meager income but dreamed of sending his daughter to medical school. He worked hard to manage the fees of the good school his daughter went to. And then he gets injured. The girl quits her studies and starts working in a factory near her house. The man spends the whole day in bed, unable to do any work and being extremely frustrated at his inability. The girl then gets an offer from the factory’s owner, to go work in his factory abroad where she can earn better. Her family agrees and off she goes. From there she sends a wheelchair for her father and some money for the family. Its all hunky dory until the end of the movie when we get to know that she is actually working as a sex worker. Such a tragic yet realistic story. So many women are tricked like this by scheming people who understand their dire circumstances.

Nothing has been achieved by this bombing. Nothing has ever been achieved by any acts of terror. Yet they continue- in the name of religion, in the name of clans, in the name of countries, and in whatever possible names one can think of. When will they stop?

Childhood Innocence

This weekend, I went away for a much-needed break to Fujairah. We stayed at the Hilton resort and got a good dose of sun, sand and beach. Mehreen was absolutely thrilled.



We checked in on Friday afternoon, roamed around for a bit and just relaxed. On Saturday morning, after Arfaz and Mehreen had spent a long time in the pool, I was taking her out to dry, when a Nepali lifeguard came and said “Hi Mehreen, did you enjoy your swim?” She gave him her usual grin- showing all her 6 and a half teeth. When we went down for breakfast, she was driving me insane. So I gave her a spoon to play with. 5 minutes later, the Filipino waitress walked to her and said “Hello Mehreen, here is a smaller spoon for you to play with.” I couldn’t help smiling. After breakfast, as we sat in the lobby playing with her, the Russian receptionist came up to us and said “Hi Mehreen, did you have a good night’s sleep?” I was starting to feel like I was with a celebrity now. Later, when we were just lazing about on the bed in our room with her somersaulting all over us, there was a knock. It was the Indian housekeeping lady. “I just came to say hi to Mehreen,” she said.



I found it so amusing that all the people who had asked her name, actually remembered it and even said hi to her. My child is not very people-friendly. She doesn’t let anyone carry her. Yet, so many people meet and remember her- regardless of the gender, nationality, age, etc. In a world where everyone struggles to highlight their differences, where wars are fought to seperate country from country, people from people and gender from gender, this comes as a welcome change to me. Everyone inherently loves children and their innocence. Everyone loves their naughty giggles. Everyone loves the fleeting moment of happiness that they bring to our lives.



This is not the first time I have felt this. When I went to Turkey, we met people from all over the world- from Russia, Azerbaijan, Latvia, Britain, etc. They all spoke to Mehreen in their own languages, cooed and fussed over her and she being the total diva just enjoyed it.



But of course, just because children are so cute, nothing will change. Wars will still be fought. People will still kill each other over their minor differences. But the world does seem a tad bit nicer knowing that there are still people who love an appreciate children and their innocence. This post is especially dedicated to all those little ones without whom our lives would be so bland. would like to quote Rabindranath Tagore “Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of humanity”

Blooming Bloomsbury's

I know its been so long since I blogged. But with a hyperactive daughter and some really hectic work schedules, I was finding it difficult to keep up. So yesterday I went to Bloomsbury’s- the coffee shop that my friend Shafeena started recently. I had seen pictures so I was prepared for its beauty. But I wasn’t really prepared for the kind of service I was about to get.
Unexpectedly, I meet Shafeena there. And the gracious host she is, she sits me down and orders tea and cupcakes for me. With its black walls, intricate designs, big chairs with arm rests and wooden flooring, I felt like I had walked into an old, beautiful English Victorian home. Every table had a bit of intimacy. It’s the perfect place to snuggle up on a chair, crunch your toes, sip a piping hot cup of tea or coffee, gorge on delicious freshly made cupcakes and read a book. On the side of each table were open glass walls through which you could see people walk around the mall. “I wanted it to be open, but at the same time intimate,” Shafeena said. If I had heard her say this before I saw the shop, I might have laughed and asked her “And how exactly do you plan to do this?”


I order a Jing jasmine tea but cant make up mind about the cupcakes. They all looked so amazing (and three of them are named after her nephews- how cute is that?) that I kept going back and forth. Shafeena is telling me about how she ate 96 cupcakes on the tasting day- I cannot even begin to imagine the sugar rush. She then finalized on 30 of her favorite ones to put in the shop.

And as I stood there, a lady walked in and asked for red velvet cupcakes. When the staff showed the cake, she frowned. “Its not red,” she said. “It is,” the staff insisted. And when I looked closely, I saw that they were just a shade of red, and not the dark red ones that you get in other shops. “People just don’t understand,” Shafeena said, sounding exasperated. “The red is just the color. The darker cakes just mean more color. I try to give people the healthy option- making fresh cakes everyday, adding as little color as possible, bringing in the best quality tea and coffee from around the world, but people just don’t understand.”


That’s when my tea makes the grand entrance. Silver tray, white teapot, white cup and saucer, a tea card and tea timer.
“Please don’t drink the tea until the tea timer runs out,” my server instructs. “Tea becomes proper only if it brews for three minutes.” The tea card, that explains a bit about Jing tea, has a beautiful quote by C.S. Lewis- “You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me” Meanwhile, the cupcakes that Shafeena chose (ya, I just couldn’t make up mind) also arrived- Diabetic and red velvet. I wasn’t sure of the diabetic. “Go on,” she urged me. Hesitantly I bit into it and I must say I was totally impressed. It tasted really sweet (it’s a natural sugar syrup, she explains) and it had lots of nuts in it. Yummmmm. By then my tea-timer runs out. The smell of jasmine is so overpowering that I actually didn’t want to drink my tea. I just wanted to sit and smell it. I’m generally not a big fan of herbal tea but this one was actually good
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And we sit and chat some more. About family, our kids, life, etc. “So how did you come up with the name?” I ask her. And that’s when she tells me about Bea. Shafeena did her masters from London and while she was there, she used to love going to Bea’s cake shop. “Bea makes the best cupcakes in the world,” she gushes. And so when she decided to start her own place, she obviously roped Bea in to make the great cupcakes here. And as an ode to their friendship, they named the shop Bloomsbury’s- the place where they first met. Now isn’t that cute?


And then its time for me to leave. Shafeena promises me a box of cupcakes to take back home- which i duly went and picked up. All i remember is bringing that box home. Next instant, it was all gone :-)

UAE and the underage driving problem

Another day, another underage driver, another accident and two lives lost in vain. I hate to be critical but such stories really drive me insane. Why was a 16 year old boy, without a driving license, driving a car with his 12 and 13 year old sisters in it at 3:30 am?

The UAE just needs to sit up and crack the whip on youngsters. A UAE university study done earlier this year reveals that 60% of Emirati and Arab drivers have driven before the legal age of 18…yes, 60 percent. 25% of the Emiratis regularly speed. 2.6% almost always jump the red signal. And how do all these people get away with it?

Now I am beginning to kind of agree with road safety campaigner Adam Kechil that the legal driving age should probably be dropped. I mean the kids are doing it any way so you might as well train them to drive rather than them getting into ridiculous accidents like these.

And while I criticize the systems and the attitudes, my heart goes out to the parents who have lost two of their kids in the blink of an eye. A third one is in hospital after being seriously injured. May you have the strength to get through this grief.

Saturday centus- The End

Its a really really busy time for me- KPI's to meet, hyperactive baby, etc. So blogging has taken a backseat. But I just couldn't resist Jenny's prompt. It was way too challenging to miss...so here I go:



‘The End’

The movie was over

“Do you wanna go home?”

“It’ll be empty”

“She’s enjoying at university”

*sniff*

And they sat for another show



My Daddy Strongest

Ok blog time again now. I have told you about Mehreen, Arfaz and my mom. But I have not really told you about my dad. So I thought today for Mama Kat’s writing prompt, I will tell you ten things I love about my dad

  1. Where there is a will, there is a way: I think this saying was created after they saw my dad. His will power is so unbelievably strong that I cant even describe it. He was once upon a time a very hot tempered person. And one fine day, he decided “That’s it, I am not going to get angry any more.” Now I don’t know of anyone who stopped getting angry after a decision. But he did. He started practicing yoga (at 6am, if I may add) and did not avoid it even for a single day- not during weekends, not during vacations, never. And now he is as cool as cucumber.

  1. Knowledge: My dad can talk about anything under the sun. And I mean it. Even though he comes from a corner of India which was once considered a really under developed place, he just knows so much about so many things. The other day I came home and said “Oh, you know that great golfer who died?” “Seve Ballesteros?” “How do you know Seve Ballesteros?” “He was champion from the mid 70-s to the 90-s when you were in school. Why wouldn’t I know him? And why are you calling him Seve on your news? He is Severiano Ballesteros”



  1. Care- He is probably one of the most caring persons I have ever met. From the stray cat in the parking lot to my mom, he cares about every single thing in the world. If I am sick, he will make coffee, prepare the steam, not let me eat anything even at room temperature, etc.

  1. Meticulousness: I don’t think dad has had even a single bill that was overdue. We have never had any reminders about electricity, water, house rent and phone bills. Every month on the 2nd, my dad would give me the money to pay my fees (you see in those days, the salary was paid on the 1st). Even today, he gets my car serviced, passed and insured two weeks before the due date and makes sure that everything is up to date.



  1. Advice- Dad has a way of giving advice in the most subtle way but hitting it right in the eye. He tells a story or quotes a verse from the Quran but after years of experience I know that he means it as an advice to us, maybe to kick a habit or get over some bad experience or encourage us to be more forgiving. It always works.



  1. Memory: Age has weathered it a bit but my dad has photographic memory. When I was young, we never used to have a phone book in the house because my dad knew every single phone number, house number and even the car number plates of everyone!

  1. Professionalism: In my 24 years of life, my dad has not taken more than 10 days of sick leave. And all those days, he was so sick that he could barely move. He is also one of the most loyal persons I have seen- you know the kind who wont even make a local call on the office phone. He is so dedicated to the company that I think to myself, if I had 10 such people in a business I begin some day, I could conquer the world.

  1. Careful Spending: If I looked for it, I think I will find the spending record of my dad from the day I was born. Every single penny he spends is written down, tabulated and calculated at the end of the month.

  1. Value: I will always remember the values dad taught. Once I said to him “Dad I am first in class in the final exam results.” And he just hugged me. The next month I went and told him about how my friend had asked me to cheat on an exam so that I could get full marks but I refused. He congratulated me. In the evening, he brought me a huge box of 76 color pencils which I had been wanting for a really long but which was a bit of luxury back then. “Never cheat,” dad said, “it will never ever get you anywhere”

  1. Different roles: He is so good at every single role in his life- he is an amazing son, he is an amazing husband, he is the most amazing dad and he is such an amazing grandfather.

This one is for my superhero dad!!!